Nothing worse, than when you've lost your job, are down on your luck and finances are tight and you are living in a messy, cluttered house or apartment. Just because your finances is in a state of depression, doesn't mean your homestead, has to look that way. Okay, I've been there - for maybe a week or two at the most but after that, I couldn't take it anymore. Living in a completely disorganized mess would have me TOTALLY round the bend!
I know it's hard to feel positive, when things look downright bleak - I know you have no energy to even think - let alone, clean the house. But if you didn't have a home, and was living on the street homeless, or in your car - you'd wish you did have a house to clean.
I always try and tell myself things like that - I do all that positive self-talk so I can appreciate all that I do have, even though it isn't enough. It could be worse. I know there have been times when I was a young mom, my children thought I was scary weird, talking to myself and all. I was only telling myself positive things - to get myself PUMPED UP. I'd write on post-it-notes around my kitchen sink- bathroom sink - things like:
- Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. ~Francesca Reigler
- So often time it happens, we all live our life in chains, and we never even know we have the key. ~The Eagles, "Already Gone"
- Defeat is not bitter unless you swallow it. ~Joe Clark
- Just because you're miserable doesn't mean you can't enjoy your life. ~Annette Goodheart
- If you have nothing to be grateful for check your pulse. ~Author Unknown
I tend to feel a lot of shame about the condition of my home - because my Mom and my sister were neat-niks. My bedroom was a mess, most of the times. But as I got older I tried to change my ways and I did. But family can put you in peg holes and it's difficult to get out of them. It's like they are holding you hostage for what you used to be. My mom has passed, but I always freaked when she would come to my house. It was never good enough. And if I knew my sister was coming for a visit, I would start a major overhaul of cleaning! That was then -
I figure my place is clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy.
~ I am thankful for a lawn that needs mowing, windows that need cleaning
and gutters that need fixing because it means I have a home.... I am thankful for the piles of laundry and ironing because it means my loved ones are nearby.~
~Nancie J. Carmody ~