The finished product - the Lamps



Fall is starting, even though the last few days have been sunny and 97. 


AS PROMISED - The lamp





I wish I could say I am in love with it - I guess it's okay for now. 




I think it looks better in person. 





Boxed in the base, applied thin wood to the base box, glued them, and then added metal stripes we had laying around - sprayed them black to give that industrial look. 

Finally found shades - but they were not cheap. 

Still trying to decide whether this project was even worth it. 

I'm just glad it's done. 

Now I want to paint the inside of my house. Just the walls - not the ceiling. 




I've been sleepy and tired lately. Too much, "go-go" for this homebody introvert. I need to refuel. 

Thursday night we went out to dinner - Friday night we had a birthday dinner at Navy's place - celebrating along with his mother-in-law, whose birthday was Friday. 

Saturday I stayed home while my husband went hiking. 

Sunday was church and then we went to dinner at the home of a new friend couple. We don't really know them - it was all my husband's doing. He's Mr. Social Butterfly lately. 

When we left and got into the car, we were both quiet - and as we drove home, I'm thinking, 

"I'm not going to say anything because he will think I am being negative."

Then, he broke the silence by asking what I thought of the evening. 

"It was fine," I answered. "What about you?"


To make a long story short - he wasn't too thrilled with the evening either. We all just didn't click. I have never had this happen to us before.   Is it us? Is it them? Did they feel it, too? 

There were 2 other couples that they knew really well - so it was one of those situations where we just weren't privy to the inside jokes and there were no initial introductions. So I didn't know who was who, where they belonged - nothing. I was lost in their conversations most of the time. 

One man friend of theirs disagreed with something my husband said - no biggie but he got really mad and said he refused to argue about it. 

No One was arguing but him. The man's body language showed he did not like my husband. He just refused to look at him. He did later admit, he has "pride issues" but come on Bud, we're adults here. 

So THAT was very awkward. 

So we continued to nitpick the whole evening - and decided that we just didn't feel comfortable with them. They like different things than we do - we just don't have anything in common. 

So that was disappointing. 

I didn't sleep well that evening - thinking about the whole evening - "what did I do?" "Was it something we said or did?" 

Why do we always think it is us when it could be the other couples. Actually, there was one couple there we enjoyed - but they are moving and that was their last evening to see them. 

Thank God they had 2 cute dogs - a Labradoodle and a boxer. 

I'm still bothered by it all - I need to just let it go. 



8 comments:

  1. So sorry the evening didn't turn out as well as you wanted it to. I have a group of friends and their husbands, and there was always something that I didn't agree with when we got together. Your lamps turned out really nice. You put a lot of effort into this project, and I think you did a great job. Don't take it to heart about how the evening went. Sometimes friends and even neighbors don't see eye to eye. In regards to the man who disagreed - it's possible he was very passionate about the subject. That's the only time it seems that I argue, if I really feel strongly about something. But don't worry, the evening has passed. : )

    ~Sheri

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  2. I really think you did a great job of those lamps.

    Believe me it was nothing you did, rather it was the fault of the couple whose home you were at for the evening. They should have introduced everybody not doing so put you both at a disadvantage right away. As far as the argumentative fellow, I wonder if he was a bit worried that the two of you were going to supplant him. Either that or he was just a rude so and so.

    God bless.

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  3. I'm sorry you don't care for the lamps after all the work you put into them. From your photos I think they're lovely.

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  4. I really like the lamps. Neat and simple and easy to dust! LOL! I bought some curlicue lamps for our bedroom and I love them but dusting them is so annoying! I'm sorry it didn't work out with this couple. It sounds like they could have made it easier on you by just having you two so you could get to know them before you get introduced to their other friends.

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  5. Dearest Debby,
    Your lamp's most perfect view is that from the side! Sideways the proportions with the shade are just perfect and I love the way you managed with thin wood and metal stripes to create that base.
    You know, there is a Dutch saying—all goo things in three; meaning three trials for reaching perfection. In real life we often don't get a second, let alone a third try...
    But just leave it alone and you will look at it different as time passes—you DID it and that in itself is an accomplishment!
    As for that dinner, sorry for the emotional 'hangover'... It was a blind date so to speak and there is little chance that it 'clicks'. At our age even less so as we weight things different—based on real value.
    Your host neglected a proper introduction to each other, so their guests would feel like having something in common. Now they were left on their own and something started boiling...
    Just let it go and forget about it. You behaved well and that other man seemed to have been a bully—well, actually a coward as he refused to argue (discuss) it further...
    He's definitely is not worth your time, nor thoughts! Let it go, it's HIS problem.
    My Pieter would say in such a case: 'Now, aren't you glad you're not married to him?! Imagine having to go home with him...'
    That is so true. And you are kind and caring but the ones you meet are not always like minded!
    Big hugs,
    Mariette

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  6. Sorry the evening didn't turn out good, but sometimes people just don't click. Don't think it is anyones fault, just how it is.
    I think your lamps turned out NICE.

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