It's time to move on...



UPDATE on the Church situation:

It's time for us to move on. The Pastor apologized for threatening church discipline, which was inappropriate. He asked for forgiveness. However, he didn't apologize for his indifferent views on Israel and the Jewish people. He mentioned that he wants all emails and texts about Israel to go through him first to "protect the flock," essentially censoring my husband.

We have forgiven him, but it's evident that it's time for us to leave. We don't share the same passion. It's unfortunate because some of the men in the men's bible study have been texting my husband, expressing that they miss him. They are unaware of the situation, and my husband hasn't disclosed anything to them. He would like to continue attending for a while, as there are about 6 men from other churches who participate in this lively bible study. He just thought that an abrupt exit would raise questions -  this way, he could ease his way out. IDK it's his decision. 

During today's ladies' prayer group and Job bible study, I couldn't hold back and ended up sharing a bit of what happened. I started crying, which isn't typical for me, but I was bottled up holding all of this within me.  We both have been very deliberate not to talk to anybody.  We didn't want to gossip or give others a reason to gossip, and let's face it: church people gossip under the guise of prayer. 

This Sunday, we might visit the service at the church where I go for the Thursday prayer group. It's a great group of ladies who are mature in the Lord, which is usually a good sign. Additionally, we always pray for Israel!



Oleander Season! 




18 comments:

  1. Dearest Debby,
    Had to look up IDK and it's one of the negative American habits to abbreviate things and way too much.
    I don't know...
    Why not type it all out?
    Love the Oleander blossoms!
    Good luck in moving on—whatever that will yield for the future.
    Hugs,
    Mariette

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    1. The oleanders are bursting in flowers around my yard. I have red and pink. I used to have white but they don’t seem to be as hardy.

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    2. We only had the white ones... they're gone.

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  2. Praying with you about this decision and situation. It's so sad when we see things like this happening in churches today...there is so much division already in the world, and it hurts when it happens in the churches. Praying that God will guide you as you seek His will. It's hard to take a stand when we know it is going to cause others to wonder what is going on...but you have to do what you believe is right for you and stand up for what you believe. God will honor that decision. (((hugs)))

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  3. I am glad you found some caring ladies you could open up to. And I think your husband could continue his Men's group even after you find another church.

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    1. Yeah I think he will still attend. He's made some nice guy friends.

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  4. It's so hard! I'm very impressed about your commitment not to gossip. I think it says a lot about you and your husband. Praying you find a good church.
    The oleander is just beautiful.

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    1. I'm sure we will. We just have to be patient and not rush the process.

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  5. Sounds like y'all are handling everything very well. It's good to not cause dissention in the Church, to have a "good conscience", as the Apostle Paul wrote. I had to make that choice before when attending a Church close to our home but for different reasons. I'm glad now I didn't make a big ta-do over the event. Now we're all still friends and they could figure it out on their own what happened. As I've matured I've learned (I hope) to not do or say things that would make everyone chose sides. You're right about the gossip/prayer.
    Anyway, prayers that the Lord may guide y'all to a loving, peaceful, courageous for Jesus Church that understands our connections with Israel. It's wonderful being around strong Saints in Christ that want to dig deep into His Holy Word. I'm grateful our Church prays for Israel and that the Prince of Peace may return soon to gather all His flock.
    Blessings.

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    1. In a contentious world where everyone is on the edge of their seat ready to pounce - It's best to bow out in a congenial way.

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  6. The oleanders are so pretty.
    Hope all things work out for the best with your church situation.

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    1. Thanks, Karen. I'm relieved this part of the nightmare is over, and we can now move forward with a positive attitude.

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  7. I am sorry to hear this but I understand what you must do to move forward in time. Change is never easy. Keeping both of you in my thought and prayers.

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    1. Change is never easy, but sometimes, it can be just what the doctor ordered. It will be a good change as long as we keep a good attitude and are patient!

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  8. I do not like the sound of that pastor, so yeah time to move on.

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  9. Such a sad situation. I wish the word woke would have never been invented. This world has their head in the sand with things we should be really worried about. It may be too late when they do wake up. I hope you are able to join another church. Janice

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