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Thanks for all your tips and suggestions on my tummy issue. Actually, I have been on a probiotic and ran out and then started a different brand. I think that is what did me in. As of this morning, I am feeling much better. I have IBS as well as GERD. I've had IBS for years - it all started when my first husband was an active alcoholic and I lived in constant worry and fear. I still have "issues" stemming from those years living with an alcoholic - and that is why I still continue to go to my weekly Alanon meetings.
I am so fortunate that my husband is not an alcoholic and for the last 24 years that I've known him, I continue to heal from all the trauma from my first marriage. It is so nice to have a stable home life and a healthy marriage. Many do not understand how terrible it is to live with an alcoholic. Then if it wasn't for him, my sister was a functioning alcoholic - I always had a feeling she was but the day I got that phone call, from her husband saying he came home from work and found her dead - I was numb. Then the autopsy showed she had advanced cirrhosis of the liver. My poor brother-in-law said he had no idea and then started finding vodka stashed around their home. Then her daughter died from a fentanyl overdose.
Alcohol and drugs infiltrated my family - and cost lives and pain for the survivors.
I found a cereal I really liked, and would eat the same thing every day. I also like cream of wheat. It is time to change things up. I never ate breakfast. Never had time for it. Now if I had someone to fix me a nice breakfast every day, I'd love it. That's why I always enjoy going out to eat breakfast; almost more than dinner.
I just pulled 2 pumpkin pies out of the oven. Smells good. I used frozen deep-dish pie shells, which I have never used before.
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Tomorrow is the super bowl.
Will you watch it? Go to friends? Have a party?
We will do neither. Years ago, when it was just me and my boys, we were diehard San Francisco 49ers fans. So we would have parties with our friends from church and have a really good time. My husband doesn't really follow sports - and I just am not into it anymore. Now if they brought back Joe Montana, Dwight Clark, Steve Young, Jerry Rice, Ronnie Lott, and the gang...
ahhh wishful thinking. You can't go back and those were special times.
Today is a beautiful sunny day after a small rain last night and this morning.
Whether you watch the super bowl tomorrow or not, I hope you all enjoy your day, doing what makes you happy and content.
Till next time,
Debby
Dearest Debby,
ReplyDeleteWell, you owe it to yourself for taking very good care of yourself!
Breakfast we've always been taught is the most important meal of the day and we ought not to skip it.
As many may not understand what it was for you to live with your first husband—I certainly DO.
Had 12 years under my belt with the very same issue. Most of it I have forgotten—pushed out of my memory. And I cried when he passed away at age 50 due to liver damage and that affected his heart. Yes, I cried because you tried so hard to change him and it never worked. A living hell and at that time I did weigh around 103 lb. Not easy for digesting all that. Sad for your sister as well—leaving a husband behind who did not know... and then their daughter. Tragedy runs deep for lots of people!
But enjoy your emotionally stable life what you got now—try to suppress that nasty past.
We cannot change other people's lives—we only can pray for them and if possible, let them be and get OUT of that trap.
Pieter's boss here in the U.S.A. was an alcoholic as well. He was bragging that at the Campbell Head Quarters in N.J. they had his bar bill framed and hanging on the wall—the highest EVER.
He despised Pieter as he never wanted to join his happy hour excesses. It was I who once had to step in over dinner where he fired the present manager of our local mushroom farm. Pieter, a colleague, his boss and the poor guy (Canadian who'd moved his family down to Georgia!) and me. I said to him by looking him straight in his face: Bob—you can't do that—you are drunk!
He looked back at me with eyes that could kill but I didn't care, I was not going to lose a job as I was not employed!
Awful how they can damage OTHERS! One managers meeting in California, over dinner, he fell in the soup—with his face that is. SO embarrassing and in front of all managers... He's long dead, he'd moved to Florida for being able to live on the golf course and... but that didn't last long.
Guess for me to immigrate and step out of all that was a great help in starting over. Both of us never did regret having made that decision and we're quite happy. Not every day and it is not a fairy tale but what a tremendous difference with my 1st.
No, both of us don't care at all about super bowl or whatever sport!
Haha, Pieter once had to meet Mr. Soetantyo from Indonesia in Los Angeles where he stayed at a suite in the Ritz Carlton. That was on January 24, 1987. It was super bowl that Sunday and the traffic on Saturday from the airport was awful. Quite an adventure!
Enjoy your pumpkin pies and it sure feels good for having written about those dark spots that have affected your health. Let go of it and ENJOY what you got now! God in the end will take care of the rest—we cannot change people.
Hugs,
Mariette
I'm happy you found Pieter and a better life and its good to get these things off our chest once in while.
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DeleteThanks for the back story. I've been a friend of Lois for more than ten years.
ReplyDeleteIt's a wonderful program.
DeleteBless your heart, you have had so much sorrow in your life! I am so glad things are now settled down and you are in a stable home now. I had I.B.S. from the time I was nine until about 8 years ago. I tape the super bowl and fast forward it to watch the commercials and halftime!
ReplyDeleteLife s good now.
DeleteSure glad you have a much happier life now. God Bless You.
ReplyDeleteNo, won't be watching the super bowl here, just no interest in it.
Pumpkin pie - yummy.
I like cream of wheat and have it every so often for breakfast too.
The pumpkin pie was good.
DeleteNow days I rarely miss breakfast, in my younger days I rarely ate breakfast, just saying
ReplyDeleteThe Superbowl is all over the morning show here, I have zero interest in sport of any kind
I like sports - Baseball is my sport. I just don't like what they have become anymore.
DeleteI'm so thankful you have a good husband and I'm sorry for the years with an alcoholic husband and then losing your sister and niece. Drugs and alcohol certainly bring a lot of sorrow with them.
ReplyDeleteI steer clear of alcoholics now.
DeleteMy father was an alcoholic so I know what living with one is like. It took our daughter dying for him to quit and the last years of his life were more what I wish I could have had growing up. He actually said he was proud of me to my face, something he had never said before. He usually belittled me.
ReplyDeleteGod bless.
I'm so sorry that happened, Jackie. At least he eventually found sobriety - better late than never.
DeleteI am so glad that you are feeling better and have a better life now. To be honest I am not watching the Super Bowl this year.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you are feeling better and I'm sorry for the sadness in your life. I'm glad things are better for you now. We did get invited to a super bowl party but didn't go. Neither of us was feeling all that great and not football fans anyway! I go for the food which was probably good to stay away from!
ReplyDeleteYeah the food people bring is usually really good and bad for you as well. I don't think my tummy this year could handle that type of food anyway.
DeleteTake care. I dated an alcoholic and it was horrible. So glad I am rid of him. Pumpkin pie sounded wonderful! I watched the Super Bowl until after halftime then went to bed. Janice
ReplyDeleteThank God you didn't marry the alcoholic!
DeleteI'm glad your tummy troubles are lessening. With IBS and GERD, I suppose you'll never be rid of the, but some relief is certainly better than none.
ReplyDeleteNo Super Bowl here, I had provincial men's curling to watch. :) I'm not a huge football fan, either the NFL or CFL anymore.
You're right - when you hit a certain age and start having these issues, you have to always be careful and watch what you eat.
Deleteyaaaay, you made the pumpkin pies! Now, I'm craving a piece haha. I'm with you, not into all those football parties at this time in my life. It's a bit excessive for me, but I do like to hear of the winning team. I'm so sorry that you lived with such worry and fear in your early marriage. That would upset your own health in many ways. Oh, I love going out to breakfast too. Something about someone else cooking a big Yummy breakfast for us, right? ; )
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